The Bible says in Song of Solomon 1:4, “The song of songs, which is Solomon's. Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee.” This book is a song that Solomon wrote, a great song, a song about love: love between a husband and a wife. Of course, the Bible shows marriage and love between a man and a woman. Nature itself teaches you that such is the normal way for human beings. God created it that way. Jesus said in Mark 10:6-9, “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
We are not surprised that Solomon wrote by the Spirit of God such a lengthy song about love between a man and a woman. God is love. All true love comes from God. Love started with God. No one will ever love you as much as Jesus loves you, but God gave love between a husband and a wife probably first of all to be symbolic of His love for us. Almost everything in life and in the physical world has some spiritual symbolism to it. The love of a man for a woman symbolizes the love of Christ for believers. The Bible says in Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
Human beings have written many, many love songs about love between a man and a woman. The vast number of popular songs are love songs. Remember the purpose of this love is to remind you of God’s love for you. One of the reasons that God brings a man and a woman together in love is to show them how much He loves them to have given them such love for each other. Love is a gift from God. As a matter of fact God Himself designed love, both physical and emotional love. There is nothing dirty or wrong about physical love between a man and woman. They are fulfilling God’s design and God’s will: in marriage, of course. God’s perfect will is that a couple would come together in a life-long bond and union, that we call marriage.
The first part of the Song of Solomon is the woman speaking about her love for her man. Immediately, she speaks of kisses. What is a kiss? It is a symbol of affection and intimacy that only a husband and wife who are madly in love with each other can know. This intimate relationship will be referred to over and over in the book we call the Song of Solomon. God means for a married couple to enjoy each other and to enjoy each other’s company for the length of their marriage. God did not mean for there to be a honeymoon and then that is the end of that enjoyment. Remember that the loving and intimate marital relationship is supposed to reflect our loving and intimate spiritual relationship that we have with Jesus.
This wife has a high opinion of her husband. She said in verse 3, “the virgins love thee.” And she said in verse 4, “the upright love thee.” By saying, “the virgins love thee,” she believes that other women think well of him too. Good women who are virgins love her husband, and we will see later in this book that a wife like this with a husband like this knows that she can trust her husband. The “upright” are the good and decent people of the earth who love God. That tells you the kind of person that you want to seek to marry, if you are a Christian. God wants you to marry another Christian who loves Jesus. It is not enough that they say that they are a Christian. They must demonstrate by their life that they are a Christian. It says in Second Corinthians 6:14, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
The Bible says in Song of Solomon 1:5-6, “I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother's children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.” In each of these verses the wife sings, “I am black.” The Hebrew word that is translated “black” is the basic word for “black” in Hebrew. It does not mean “brown,” and it does not mean “sun-tanned.” It means “black.” Elsewhere in the Bible it is translated “black horse” and “black hair.” The message of the Bible is that this woman had black skin. You have probably heard the phrase, “black is beautiful.” The Bible says the same thing in verse 5, “I am black, but comely.” Notice that her husband is described in chapter 5 verse 10 and 11, “My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven.”
The wife is described as being black
and the husband is described as being white. We could call this an inter-racial
couple: black and white. But black and white was only mentioned in passing.
That is because racial issues do not dominate Bible themes. The Bible is a
great book of equality, pure and simple. God has created every human being. Every
person is a sinner. God loves everyone equally. Jesus died for everyone on the
In the book the Song of Solomon notice what the woman said about her circumstance in life as far as her situation before she was married. She said in chapter 1 and verse 6, “my mother's children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards.” This book is very much a Cinderella story. Here is a young woman being mistreated, but a man comes along who loves her and whom she loves, and everything changes in her life for the better. Her life becomes so much better, not because of money or wealth or fame, but because of love. She went from a situation where she was not loved to one where she was loved. That is what you want in marriage. Be practical and be wise, by all means; but do not marry if love is not there.
The wife says to her husband in Song of Solomon 1:7, “Tell me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon: for why should I be as one that turneth aside by the flocks of thy companions?” The reason that this husband and this wife had such love for each other is that they were soul-mates. The wife said to her husband, “thou whom my soul loveth.” This is critically important. You do not want to marry anyone who is not your soul-mate. You do not want that disaster. So it is a matter of making the right decision before you get married. The spiritual principles for finding the person that you should marry can be seen very clearly in Genesis chapter 24 when Isaac and Rebekah were brought together. Here are some of the Biblical principles for finding your soul-mate, given very briefly:
1. Pray about it. God answers prayer.
2. If you are a believer in Jesus, do not consider anyone who does not believe and who does not demonstrate by their life that they love Jesus. “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.”
3. Consider respectfully the advice and opinions of elders such as parents, grandparents, pastors, etc. In our culture that does not mean that you must turn your decision over to them; but make sure that you at least carefully and respectfully consider what they say in their evaluation of your situation.
4. Remember that God loves you and He wants what is best for you. If He wants you to be married, then He has the perfect person prepared for you. That is exactly what God did for Adam in the book of Genesis. It says in Genesis 2:22 that God “brought her unto the man.” A very similar thing happened when God brought Isaac and Rebekah together. Just by a divine “coincidence” Rebekah showed up at the well just at the right moment after Abraham’s servant prayed that he would be led to the right maiden for Isaac.
5. Remember that true love comes from God. Your soul-mate will love you as much as you love him or her. Be careful of an infatuation that is not love. If both do not have the same level of love, it is not of God.
6. Be willing to wait. You not only want God’s person for you, but also God’s time for you. Human self-will is a dangerous force. Many great sins happened because of it. It would be terrible to marry the wrong person because you did not learn to wait on God and trust His love for you.
The husband answers the wife in verses 8-11. He says to her, “If thou know not, O thou fairest among women, go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock, and feed thy kids beside the shepherds' tents. I have compared thee, O my love, to a company of horses in Pharaoh's chariots. Thy cheeks are comely with rows of jewels, thy neck with chains of gold. We will make thee borders of gold with studs of silver.” He has the same love for her that she has for him. That was one of the points that we made above about finding your soul-mate. A one-sided relationship will cause much sorrow and regret. If what you have is true love from God, the other person will have the same type of love for you. If they do not, get away before you are married. Marry a person who loves you as much as you love them, and your life will be a song about love too.
The Bible says in Song of Solomon 1:11-17, “We will make thee borders of gold with studs of silver. While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth forth the smell thereof. A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts. My beloved is unto me as a cluster of camphire in the vineyards of En-gedi. Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes. Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.” This husband and wife have great love for each other. They continue to say the nicest things they can think of to each other and about each other. Their home and their relationship are built on love for each other. They are dedicated to each other and to each other alone. We already saw that they kiss, and now we see that they hug each other because the wife says, “he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts.” That is a description of the husband and wife curled up and hugging each other as they sleep. Symbolically this great love represents the kind of spiritual relationship that a believer can have with Jesus. Jesus loves you. The question is: how much do you love Jesus?
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